Okay folks, here’s the thing, a lot of us are running around wasting years of our time lost and following after things that bring no value, nor add to values we already have set in place. For years I thought the best way to be successful and come up is by paying my dues to others. Working my way up in someone else’s company and learning a set of skills that would benefit my career. Yes internships are great, jobs are very beneficial financially but are these jobs, internships, voluntary services you provide getting you closer to your career, to your dream position?! Of course, sometimes life isn’t fair and we do have to work jobs that aren’t ideal but do get things done! Still, make sure that you are working to your fullest potential and the job is allowing you to.
Just like setting standards and values to make the right connection with people, the same applies to jobs, internships, and volunteer opportunities. Do not lower your standards or compromise your values just because someone told you the pay looks nice or because it’s what everyone is getting into. You must make choices for you! More importantly, if your focus is only on money, you are seriously in trouble. Life is not about making money to have the best things in life, because those things will soon fade away, but its more so about the relationships you have with people. Money will never be able to give you the things you truly desire, like love, a peace of mind, or fellowships with others, GREAT HEALTH!
Know exactly what you want to do, and why you want to do it. This was something I started to learn last year when a guy I was working for broke it down to me. I was all over the place with part-time jobs, back and forth working for him, and wanting to start my clothing line. I knew in my heart that I wanted to do my clothing line, and although working for him was beneficial in that he was a photographer and had connects to models, yet the work I did was not leading me in the right direction to what I wanted to do…design and make clothes! We finally sat down one day for a staff meeting and I explained to him that I would have to back off from the company because I needed something with more pay. I am a single mom of three, no support of any kind from the donor(biological father), and the state gave as much as they could before having to end my monetary benefits. Something had to be done, I had mouths to feed, bills to pay, and most of all I wanted to begin financing MY business. He explained that I didn’t need money, I needed food, utilities, and supplies to began making clothes. Money is just a tool to get the things I need, and he asked were there any other ways to get the things I needed without money. People, that’s when my brain went into overdrive. I started thinking of ways to get what I needed without having to look for a regular job. I am a talented individual that had resources in place to make the money I wanted.
That meeting catapulted me so high, I saw my journey laid out years ahead and when I came down from my “aha” moment, I took off running towards my dreams. As much as my old boss helped me, I had to leave because working for him did not add the value I needed and more importantly, I wasn’t adding value to his company because I wasn’t working to my full potential. When you are working just to be working and you aren’t passionate about what you are doing, you will, in essence, take away from what someone else has built. Of course, not everyone is meant to leave a job and began working for themselves and some are not even interested in starting something of their own. A lot of people have dreams to work for companies already established and are passionate about helping others grow. Just make sure its a company that has values and employees aligned with your core values!
Right now I am still a full-time mother and I am utilizing the skills and disciplines of being a mother and applying them to my career. Part of me wants to get a regular job but circumstances won’t allow it…so I embrace where I am and look forward to where I am going. Being a single mother is very hard and requires a lot of discipline as my children get older and become wiser. My children look to me for everything! So, with that, time management is very important tool in being successful. I also have to budget EVERYTHING!!!! I try not to stress because all that I do here at home, prepares me for my career. In the same way that I look at each task I do at home, look at your job the same way. Never take for granted the task that you are given. Sure its fun to dream of the ultimate career but what steps, skills, and disciplines do you need to acquire in order to get you to the next level of your career?! Figure those steps out and see if you are already perfecting them in the job you are currently in!